PROVIDERS NEEDED

 

    Naturally, as I have been incarcerated, I've often fantasized about women during that time.  To a man like me, women are extremely important, as they should be to all civilized, righteous, and mature men, but even more so to me because I have been without one, in a monogamous way, for quite some time.  While in the "pen", I have probably considered all any man ever could about a woman.  Yet, now, I have been inspired to write about, something I have determined to be pretty interesting.  Please keep in mind that this is something I merely believe to be true, so don't bet on complete accuracy, but do thoroughly consider it nonetheless.

    For some time in my life, here in America, women have had gripes about inequality issues, and we all can believe that, at least a little bit, since the year I was born (1982), some of those issues could actually be valid.  However, let's be real...we've had Oprah--Winfrey, that is--for much longer than that.  When you're talking about, for example, hiring managers on any level of any company, I can only believe that any heterosexual men will always hire as many women as they can get away with, whether those male hiring managers are married or not.  Even female hiring managers, I must believe, will often hire women simply for the support and empowerment of women.  Thus, I have grown to consider the women's inequality thing to be primarily a load of crap in my lifetime. 

    According to the lovely Beyonce, "girls" are the ones who run the world, and as a serious  Beyonce supporter--yet not for that reason--I have also grown to believe that's just about the truth.  Everyone can clearly see women doing big things in every crevice of society, high and low.  Therefore, should it be difficult for a woman who desires a monogamous relationship with a good man to have one?  Certainly not.  And, of course, when I say a "good" man, I am certainly referring to a man a woman can truly depend on in various ways, even emotionally--even to the extent of submitting to marriage.  However, I believe in most cases, particularly when involving women who can financially support themselves and another adult, a woman's best options are men who cannot financially support them or even themselves.  

    To this assertion, many might say, "now that's a load of crap".  Yet, it's all about what a woman really desires out of a relationship with a man.  It's all about her mentality and whether she is able to sufficiently envision a relationship with a man of that status--and if she really knows anything, she knows that the right man with the very status of financial instability, is truly the man that can almost always be considered truly good for her. 

    A man who is financially unstable is not only likely to be extremely loyal, loving, and protective to a woman who choses be with him despite his circumstances, but he can also be depended upon in many other ways a financially stable man may not--which only prepares him to be an even better man for such a compassionate lady when he advances financially.  Honestly, I believe, oftentimes, women are either not aware of this truth, or bad experiences with a financially unstable man has caused them to give up on that option, or they just think they have become too good to have to "settle" for that option.  Regardless what the case may be, I'm here to tell all of you "traditional" ladies that the right financially unstable man is indeed the way to the most genuine and fulfilling love.

    Yes, it will require you to, sometimes, help him think.  You might even have to think for him at times.  He'll need you to emphatically motivate him even more than his financial instability or the relationship already does, but is that not something your love for a man who is financially established requires as well--at least to some extent?  Is that not something that makes all relationships fulfilling to some extent?  Certainly it is a part of the very beauty of all relationships for either a man or a woman to assist in "upgrading" their partner--aye Beyonce?

    Surely, you women must be prudent enough not to invest too much of your money, time or other resources, but you must also be prudent enough to invest those things, nonetheless, in any man you find potentially good, possessing promising qualities and character.  Needless to say, it really is similar to caring for a young plant, pet, or even a child--you must simply devote yourself to caring.  If  you're like me, in spirit, you will devote yourself to caring in this way not only because you want a particular person in your life, but also because of your commitment to Christ which entails glorifying God.

    Moreover, I have postulated that, on the flip side, financially stable men are much more likely than financially stable women to take the low route when seeking a monogamous relationship.  Yes, while many women--heterosexual as well--are still campaigning for "equal opportunity", as they occupy many job positions that mainly used to belong to men, it is financially stable men who are more likely to meet a financially unstable woman and comfortably initiate a serious, monogamous relationship.  Surely if that is as accurate as I believe it to be, it is because of what can be considered rather insufficient societal conditioning which has designed the man to be most comfortable in and even nearly covetous of the role of provider, thereby causing the woman to be uncomfortable and nearly unwilling to provide for the man while walking with him as his wife or serious lover.

    Nevertheless, in situations where those of us men and women who are single find ourselves needed in the role of provider, shouldn't we, for the sake of even having a more authentic version of the loving relationship we desire, submit to simply doing what is necessary?  Shouldn't those of us who find ourselves needed in the role of provider, while even aware of our need for power, take advantage of the opportunity to learn the way of exercising power by establishing a relationship with a financially unstable person? My answer is emphatically yes.  Forget about the traditional gender roles we've been conditioned to occupy, and be happy in the most resourceful ways we can.  No, I'm not saying people aren't doing this.  I'm just saying women aren't doing it enough since I'm still single.  

    Additionally, regarding my aforementioned statement, this certainly has nothing to do with a hunger for power.  However, in the America I was born and raised in, people who can hardly spell power are hungry for power.  So I've figured, one way to show and prove you actually deserve a little power is by providing for another human being--especially an adult.  Naturally, a man or woman who provides for their family--spouse and/or children--is one who is generally considered fit for a position of authority where they will also be doing some form of providing.  Therefore, it truly behooves each of us to seek out opportunities to directly providing for another.

    So... ladies... I'm ready.  Please... just provide for me!  Let me love you and you can love me as I grow, and we'll be in love, on our way to the alter.  But here's the thing: you've got to make sure you tell EVERYONE.  Yes, post pictures of the new car you bought me all over social media, along with my new wardrobe courtesy of your dime.  Make sure you show off my amazing home office you had designed just the way I wanted.  Yet, you must also make sure you reveal it all to as many of your professional colleagues as you can, and definitely tell everyone at church.  You know why?  Because before long, all they'll be saying about you is, "That girl ain't nothing but a boss".  Then, that's how you'll also be treated, boss lady.